i learn something new everyday!

we have all been there, we still hate someone for things they have done 10 even 20 years before. we today i have crawled out of that hole of toxic behavior. there is this girl i have hated since high school and thought i know exactly why i hated her, but to my surprise i was wrong. i have been friends with her husband since grade school so she never seem to go away.
    long story short. i picked up the phone today and called their house. she answered. i told her i thought it was about time we talked. we are grown women this should be easy right. i"ll admit i was having trouble breathing. but i told her that i' m doing this reinvent myself thing and i felt that holding a grudge against her all this time has held me back from growing as a person. i know it sounds corny but, it made since when someone else explained it to me. i have made a big deal about mistake you make in you past shouldn't define who you are at the present time. so i shouldn't hold it against people for thing they did when they where young and dumb. we talk for awhile and she even told me that she wish things had come to her as easy as they came to me back then. i even think i got the husband in trouble. we figured out that we think he enjoyed us fighting so he never tried to fix it.
   anyway i think today i grow up just alittle bit more. my new rule, let the past make you who you are, just don't let it keep you from being who you are.

so still wondering about happily ever after, but a new subject. What is socially correct in a relationship? we all learn early in life that a relationship is between one man and one woman. we are suppose to stay virgin till we meet the one we spend the rest of our life's with. yeah, like that will happen. i could never imagine only being with one person in my life time. why do we only have to be with one person for it to be "socially acceptable? i want to get married and spend the rest of my life i love with one person. share my life with that person. what if we want to have sexually relations outside our relationships? someone once told me that sex is only a physical thing, is it? is it OK to invite other people into your bedroom?

i want everyone to understand that i have my own views on these things, but lately me and my friends have been talking alot about why we let society dictate what we see as a normal relationship. i would like so feed back please.

what is happily ever after

as a little girl growing up, we are programed to believe the a knight in shining armor will one day come and sweep us off our feet. we will ride into the sunset and live happily ever after. any self respecting women wants that to happen, but knows it's unlikely. so my question is, what is happily ever after?